You know your marriage isn’t working out. Your partner did seem assertive and annoyed the last time you spoke to him.
As usual, you expect them to come around, let off steam and be their normal selves as time goes on.
Instead, one day, you come home to find their clothes missing from the wardrobe and a piece of paper on the dining table — divorce papers.
Financial issues, infidelity, lack of communication, and frugal sex and intimacy sessions are some of the common reasons for divorce.
The Austin Institute for The Study of Family and Culture, using data from 4,000 divorced adults, identified the top reasons for divorce in the United States: infidelity by one of the partners, unresponsiveness of the spouse; incompatibility; partner immaturity; emotional abuse and
financial problems.
What are the top 5 reasons for divorce?
Here is a list of the commonly observed reasons for divorce with the statistics of reasons for divorce. If you identify with any of these in your relationship, you should be aware of where your relationship is going.
This will help you understand what factors are associated with a higher risk of divorce and take necessary action to prevent further damage.
Let’s look at the 7 most common reasons for divorce and understand whether your marriage can be saved
1. Infidelity or an extramarital affair
When one person steps out of the relationship to fulfill their own needs, such as sexuality, it can destroy a marriage relationship.
It’s very hard to get trust back once your partner feels betrayed.
Infidelity in marriage is responsible for 20–40% of failed marriages and ending in divorce.
This is one of the most common reasons for divorce. The reasons why the person cheats are not as dry as your anger.
Anger and resentment are common reasons for cheating, along with differences in sexual appetite and a lack of emotional intimacy.
Affair often begins as a friendship that seems innocent. It starts as an emotional affair which then becomes a physical affair.
Adultery is one of the main reasons for divorce. It is also one of the reasons for a legal divorce, apart from living apart for more than a year and subjecting your spouse to cruel (mental or physical) abuse.
2. Problems with finances
If the partners do not have the same understanding of how finances will be handled, it can lead to real problems.
Why is divorce so common because of financial mismatch? According to divorce statistics, the “last” reason for divorce is a lack of compatibility in the financial area and accounts for nearly 41% of divorces.
From differing spending habits to financial goals, to one partner making far more money than the other, causing power struggles can strain a marriage to the point of breaking up. In addition, differences in the amount of money that each partner brings into the marriage can also lead to power struggles between the spouses.
Money really touches everything. It impacts people’s lives. Obviously, money and stress seem to go hand in hand for a lot of couples.
Financial problems can be categorized as one of the biggest causes of divorce, following infidelities which are the number one cause of divorce.
3. Lack of communication
Communication is very important in a marriage and not being able to communicate effectively leads to resentment and frustration for both husband and wife, which impacts all aspects of the marriage.
On the other hand, good communication is the foundation of a strong marriage.
When two people share their life together, they need to be able to talk about what they need and be able to understand and work on fulfilling the needs of the other.
Yelling at your partner, not saying much all day long, making mean comments to express yourself are unhealthy methods of communication that need to be removed from your marriage.
Plus, when partners stop talking to each other, they can feel isolated and lonely and stop caring about one another altogether. This can lead to a rift in the relationship.
Poor communication is one of the biggest reasons 65% of divorces occur.
Practicing mindful communication to improve a marriage can be tough, but it’s worth the effort to repair and save your relationship.
4. Unrealistic hopes
It’s easy to marry with high expectations, expecting your spouse and the marriage to live up to your image of what it should be.
These expectations can put a lot of pressure on your partner, make you feel let down and make your partner fail. Setting expectations that are wrong can be one of the causes of divorce.
5. Lack of intimacy
Not feeling connected to your partner can damage a marriage, as it makes partners feel as though they are living with strangers or like roommates rather than partners.
It can be due to a lack of physical or emotional intimacy, and it’s not always about sex.
If you are constantly cold to your partner, know that it can become the basis of a divorce over time.
Often couples struggle with different sex drives and different sexual tastes. This can really annoy partners as they try to get their needs met.
In addition, at different stages of life, your sexual needs can change, which can lead to feelings of confusion and rejection.
Making your relationship intimate and special is both partners’ responsibility. Practice little acts of kindness, appreciation, and enjoy physical intimacy as much as possible to sweeten your relationship.
