Once you and your spouse decide to get married, it can feel like one, swift free-fall toward the big day. It’s easy to get caught up in wedding planning and let every single interaction with your other half revolve around wedding details and decisions. But whether your wedding is months or years away, it’s important to take this time not only to prepare for a beautiful wedding, but also to get ready for a lasting and happy marriage. To deepen and strengthen your bond — and make the transition into married life even smoother and breezier. Here are important things that wedding and marriage experts recommend couples do together before they get married.
Mental readiness
Marriage does not always run smoothly like what was felt during courtship. There are so many domestic problems that require mental readiness to deal with them.
Financial readiness
The size of a happy and quality family is not pegged to the nominal rupiah. But logical thinking in a relationship is very necessary. The wheel of household life will continue to run, so that basic needs for the future such as children’s expenses need to be considered before marriage.
Intellectual readiness
Intellectual abilities are reflected in information seeking activities about family life. However, apart from the 10 dimensions of marriage readiness, during this pandemic, you must know that the Ministry of Religion provides online marriage registration services. This was done by the Ministry of Religion (Kemenag) to prevent the spread of the corona virus outbreak.
Get in One Good Fight With Your Fiancé
Experts agree that entering into a marriage with full knowledge of how your partner handles conflict is key to a successful marriage. Every couple — even the happiest, most compatible couples — have occasional disagreements, misunderstandings, and differences of opinion. You need to know that you have a willing participant in open communication without defensive postures and that your partner has self-examination skills and a capacity for accountability. In other words, you don’t want to marry someone who will always blame you for problems that arise.
Take a trip.
Traveling together gives you a chance to see how you each handle stressful situations, which is valuable insight for your future life together. Even if you’ve mastered the art of the couple getaway already, this is a good time to consider an engagement-moon. It lets you decompress. So if you haven’t skipped town together yet, book a trip! It doesn’t need to be faraway, lengthy, or expensive, either. Road trips, camping trips, domestic weekend getaways in a home rental — they’re all great ways for couples to share experiences outside their usual routines, make new memories, and get used to solving problems (a flat tire, hotel hiccups, cancelled flights) as a team. And, of course, they’re fun and romantic. If you’re booking a more traditional stay, Velez recommends making it easy on yourself and consider an all-inclusive resort, which gives you the chance for down time without having to worry about details once you get there.
Stop Sharing Every Detail of Your Relationship With Others
When you first met or started dating, you might have unveiled every tiny detail about your new S.O. to your friends and maybe even your family. But now that you’re serious, it’s important to preserve and protect the integrity of the relationship. When you get mad, no Facebook rants or cryptic quotes about a fight you may be having and no more calling all of your friends for consensus about whether you are right or wrong in an argument. Your marriage is sacred and what happens in your relationship needs to stay in your relationship. Leaning on a trusted best friend to blow off steam or find a therapist that you can confide in and learn skills to be a better mate and get through conflict.
