All relationships have bumps in the road, but when your relationship becomes extra bump than road, it may be time to introspection. It’s tempting to only recognize toxic dynamics when they are induced by someone else. But what if the toxic one in the relationship is you?
In a toxic relationship, both people creating unhealthy behaviors and treat each other disrespectfully. While an individual in the relationship may engage in more toxic behaviors than the other, they don’t exert overwhelming manage over the other person. Instead, one or both partners engage in behaviors that make the relationship unhealthy, sucking the life and joy out of it, and making it more of a burden than a support.
A toxic relationship is one in which one or both partners feel trapped, managed, or drained by the other. They can be emotionally, psychologically, or physically abusive — or all of those things. All relationships are hard work, and there’s always compromise, but a toxic relationship is one in which the members aren’t supporting each other in a healthy way.
Certain themes, like narcissism and codependency, are also common in toxic relationships. Any toxic relationship implies there is something potentially damaging for the person (or both people) in that relationship.These relationships can leave you doubting your own reality, your sense of self-worth, and your own values.
It’s difficult to admit wrong and be accountable. But the only way to have healthy relationships in the future is to be accountable for your previous behavior. Here are the symptoms you may be contributing to a toxic relationship, and how you can move forward to better relationship health.
You’re not well-suited.
Some individuals— who’ve grown up in an environment where conflict is embraced — love to continue the conflict and drama in their interpersonal relationships. If they are with a conflict avoider, they are not too concerned, as they are adept at developing a conflict out of thin air. Their reward is a serotonin improvement.
You have a major superiority complex
Having a superiority complex could be a symptom of a toxic relationship waiting to occur. Contemptuous people damage relationships because they see their partner as inferior. Curling your lip in disgust, rolling your eyes, or using a sarcastic tone with your spouse are just a few telltale symptoms of a toxic relationship. Contempt is degrading. You’re an idiot.
In fact, University of Michigan researchers surveyed 373 newlywed couples and discover that couples who screamed at one another, showed contempt, or withdrew themselves from conflict within the first year of marriage were more likely to separate.
One of you is a dominance manipulator while the other is vulnerable and blindly trusting.
This results in the lack of emotional and mental objectivity to scrutinize the schmoozing, charismatic individual. The schmoozer criticizes and blames the other, with no accountability on their part.
The blamed party either back down into feelings of shame and guilt or becomes an over-achieving cheerleader who ramps up their game to please their partner. Or both. Like a shifting debris on a breezy mountain ledge, the criticized person’s identity sooner erodes.
Toxic Relationship:: Beware This Signs
Internal Dysfunctions Impact on Adult Relationships
Adults people with traumatic childhoods or relational experiences have a tend to continue in that pattern. They use incorrect skills that they studied from their guardian to get rid a relational problems. The unhealthy skills they learned to deal with internal turmoil make them to repeat toxic patterns in almost every relationship.
