First dates can be very stressful. It’s natural to feel nervous about meeting a stranger, specially if you think that stranger could end up becoming a significant part of your lives.
But unfortunately, nerves can make us say or do matters we wouldn’t normally. If you’re wondering what not to do on your first date, here are the top things to avoid.
Do not go out dirty.
You may wonder why I decided to add and starting this list with this one. It’s because I read somewhere, that almost 29% of human, mostly male, go out for a date without taking a bath! Impressive, eh? As for women may the percentage be lower, but there is a high percentage of female, who forget to shave their legs, and other parts of their body, I wouldn’t like to mention right now! So please, let’s make these percentages drop to zero.
Don’t be late.
Very very necessary. Imagine yourself waiting out in the cold, and rain for your date to come. I’m sure you won’t like it. So, don’t be late on your first date, or on all of your dates. You have to be on time no matter what. It’s a trully serious mistake, and a negative sign for the future. Being late, makes your date to obviously think, that she’s just another woman or he’s just another guy. Are you taking your date seriously? There are no excuses for that one!
Don’t mention your ex.
This is a big turnoff for a lot of lovers. Oftentimes, it’s a sign that you’re not completely over your ex, and your current date is just a rebound. Talking about an ex love forces your date to wonder, if you’re ready for someone new. If you catch yourself starting sentences with ‘I used to date someone who…’ or ‘Oh yeah, my ex and I…,’ you are setting yourself up for failure.
Avoid talking too much about yourself.
Ensure to create a balance between speaking about yourself, and asking questions about the other person. Too much about yourself suggests you are too self-involved. Asking too much about the other person feels uncomfortable and like you’re a detective.
Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not.
If you “act” on your first date, what will occur when you try to get real later? What you want to do is be as real and natural as possible, so that you won’t have to try to remember what act you put on. If he, or she doesn’t like exactly who you are, then you want to pass on them anyway.
Don’t sleep with him on the first date.
If you really want a committed relationship, and for your date to take you seriously, don’t have sex with him right away. Having sex on the first date will cloud your judgment, and if he doesn’t call again, you’re going to spend a lot of energy stalking, analyzing, and even asking him out yourself for a second and third date. Just because he had sex with you doesn’t mean he’s interested, and if you care about his interest, wait to sleep with him.
