What to Do If You Have a Short Temper
Do you anger when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure increase like sunrise when your child refuses to cooperate? Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion — but it’s crucial to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.
However, if you find yourself developing telltale symptom of rage frequently, you might have a short temper. Maybe you’re stressed at a server who got your order wrong, or at the car in front of you refusing to move quickly enough, or maybe even losing it at your favorite sports team for blowing a lead — this may be pointing to something a little different, and more severe.
If you are prone to unpredictable and out-of-control fits of hate and anger, this behavior can leave you open to physical, several social, and even psychological problems. These difficulties can manifest in the following ways.
A short temper can affect you in a range of ways. According to one 2010 research it can also contribute to making you more prone to substance use and overdoing it on caffeine.
Uncontrolled anger also cause our body’s fight-or-flight response, which includes the release of stress hormones.
Incorporating mindfulness into your regular routine can assist you better understand and manage the reactivity that often drives a short temper.
The next time you feel your temper rising and almost blow, try this exercise:
- Discover a quiet room and a comfortable place to sit.
- Shut your eyes and notice the physical sensation of anger travel through your body, whether it’s through your fast heart rate or your clenched jaw.
- Inhale deeply and permit all thoughts of anger to release as you exhale.
- Repeat 2 to 3 times daily or whenever you begin to feel anger arise.
Take a timeout.
If you feel your temper slowly rising up, remove yourself from the situation entirely. Take a deep breath and count slowly to ten. This trick often calms people down and prevent them from reacting in an irrational manner, so you can solve your problems rather than continuing to fight.
Change your mindset.
Sometimes people can make a stressful conversation even more stressful by having a bad outlook. Sometimes you have every right to be annoyed, but always attemp looking at the issue through another perspective. Often pessimistic thoughts can make everything seem worse than it is; attemp asking yourself if you are being a pessimist, an optimist or a realist.
Think of a funny memory.
If you have had a long, depressed day, anything from the commute home to burning dinner can leave you feeling angry. When you feel your temper rising up over something small, think of a funny memory you have with your spouse, family or friends. Remind yourself that this is temporary, and it won’t matter in a next few hours.